How can someone keep up with the BBing lifestyle? (Your struggles and suggestions)

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Originally Posted by Dnewell2004

Don't mean to bring this back but I struggle too. Can't go to the gym til the kids go to bed. If they're good it's 845 when I get there and it isn't bad. If they're assholes its 945-10pm. Get in, try to get workout done by 11:15. That's hard if the wife is working out too cause we gotta load and unload weights if we only have 1 rack. Cardio is a no go if we both workout. Get home and hopefully can wind down quick from the pre(need to try non stim)since I have to be up for work at 5am. I rely on my physical job to provide my cardio for the week.

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No worries about bringing this back up its here for people to talk about that's what it was intended for..
I see that you are stuck in the rat race with daily life and it can be pretty hectic.. from an alternate perspective it may sound bizarre but I can still tell you at the same time that you're being pretty successful with your training because you do make your sessions,you're finding the time to do it and at the end of the day that is what makes the success.. it may not be the ideal times that you want but you're still getting it done..
Although replacing cardio can be pretty difficult, I will definitely argue with people if they try saying that some jobs are nowhere near equivalent.. in essence they may not be equivalent however I agree with you that some jobs can be extremely taxing, I know firsthand, being out there in the field I can tell you for certain that some jobs are not for the weak and they can be your cardio, maybe not the gold standard of what we really need but it will work..

The wife and I built a gym at the house. I work too many hours to get everything done around our house and make it to the gym. We buy homes and remodel them while we live in them, but both of us have full time jobs. I work 55-65 hours a week before working on the house. We usually own a home for about 3 years while we upgrade and remodel, then sell it for another one (at a substantial profit of course). We always set up an expansive gym at our house. We food prep on Sundays and she cooks breakfast every morning. Usually we get about 4.5-5 hours of sleep per night. We usually train about 5-6 days a week. Its tough and there aren't enough hours in the day, we don't have kids... just a couple German Shepherds so that helps. Sometimes our bodies just say no and we need to shut it down for a night, it happens I'm 40 years old now. Luckily my wife and I do pretty much everything together, so there isn't any animosity towards each other for not spending time together. We also find time to go out with friends when the opportunities arise, life is too short not to enjoy it! There has to be balance. A cheat meal and some alcoholic beverages isn't going to ruin your physique. My old trainer when I used to compete (who was a pro) always said "you can't get fat in a day."

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Originally Posted by Herc

The wife and I built a gym at the house. I work too many hours to get everything done around our house and make it to the gym. We buy homes and remodel them while we live in them, but both of us have full time jobs. I work 55-65 hours a week before working on the house. We usually own a home for about 3 years while we upgrade and remodel, then sell it for another one (at a substantial profit of course). We always set up an expansive gym at our house. We food prep on Sundays and she cooks breakfast every morning. Usually we get about 4.5-5 hours of sleep per night. We usually train about 5-6 days a week. Its tough and there aren't enough hours in the day, we don't have kids... just a couple German Shepherds so that helps. Sometimes our bodies just say no and we need to shut it down for a night, it happens I'm 40 years old now. Luckily my wife and I do pretty much everything together, so there isn't any animosity towards each other for not spending time together. We also find time to go out with friends when the opportunities arise, life is too short not to enjoy it! There has to be balance. A cheat meal and some alcoholic beverages isn't going to ruin your physique. My old trainer when I used to compete (who was a pro) always said "you can't get fat in a day."

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I love sitting back and drinking a coffee and reading about other couples and people in the grind.. great story man.. you guys sound very passionate for everything that you apply yourselves too..

I've noticed this time around a big difference in my gains/results. One of the big factors is that I started logging everything. Not just every AAS and supplements but every meal and total calories. This in itself showed me what is too much and what is going to keep my scale moving up. I had a preplanned progressive overload cycle written on for my training. Every rep and set is documented. How I felt and feel after is documented. Whether its mild left knee pain or lethargy/emotional or no appetite. That's shown me my sweet spot and to know if I'm over training. Another huge factor was realistic and specific goals. Not just I want to get bigger or I want to squat more. I started at 186 and set the goal of 200 pounds. I can full ass to ankles squat 275 and I want to squat 315. Setting specific goals not only had me reach them in less then half the time I anticipated but it made it possible to set new goals mid cycle. After 3 years away from the gym I started training 7 months ago. By writing things down you get to see your progress every week instead of just looking in the mirror and guessing. It keeps me honest and it keeps me motivated. 7 months ago when I started this journey I was 165 pounds and could maybe on a good day squat 205 for 1 rep. Now,because of this forum and having a strategy that holds me accountable I weighed in at 207 today and just hit 405 for my squat. That's 42 pounds gained and 200 pounds added to my squat lol. I know the majority of people here could blow me put of the water in terms of muscle mass and weight lifted but for me it's awesome. I'm only saying all this to validate documenting everything and what it can do for you. It's hard as hell for me to leave a piece of paper in my notebook blank bc I didn't feel like eating again or bc I was too tired to do that extra set I was supposed to do. I couldn't handle it. I felt like I'd need to write a excuse to the book why I was being a bitch lol. This for me has been the single most important thing for me.

I have found over 40+ years of the lifestyle is that it is a lifestyle and relationships are hard to maintain...women want a good looking guy that has a good build but they don't realize that the lifestyle does not match their fantasy lifestyle of partying non stop...also, women have an inferiority complex...at first they are flattered by all of the attention the relationship gets but soon realize that attention is based on the guy and not them...how often do you see good looking women with losers?...women are conditioned to think they must run the show and should get all the attention...it is a conundrum!

Interesting topic as I am finding myself in a possible dilemma down the rd. Has anyone had a relationship with someone that has competed? Has that lifestyle put a strain in your relationship? My gf is thinking of competing i am all for it, but currently she is on military deployment and plans to compete when she returns as she is working with a coach out there. I fear that when she returns, there wont be much time with her or not much fun like going out and having fun. I feel this lifestyle is a selfish lifestyle bc its controlling, its about yourself and messes with your head most of the time. I don't know if I should say something to her or if I will sound like a psycho if I do. Myself currently dieting I feel like its effecting my parenting with my kids.

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