we have an asian dude at the gym. he's a power lifter, and dead lifts like 700 and he's a small guy. i know he holds a NJ record. moral of the story is that his body looks soft, and i would much rather look like i could bench 500 then to be able to do it. I'm 35 and I'm strong enough lol. strength just does not matter as long as i look huge and have abbs.